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In this blog I wanted to talk about what is called “the 7 lies to success”.  It is also been called the 7 character traits of a champion.  This was created by Tony Robbins who wrote a chapter in his book, “Unlimited Power”.  Tony also shares this in his seminars as well.

In this world and society, we get to choose where we live whether it is consciously or unconsciously.  If we choose love and happiness, that’s what we get.  If we choose misery, that’s what we get too.

The first step towards excellence is to find the beliefs that will lead us there.  We need to find the beliefs that will support the outcome we want.  If your beliefs do not do that, we need to throw them out and develop new ones.

When Tony Robbins came up with these 7 beliefs, he used the word “lie” because we do not know exactly how things are or suppose to be.  Lies in this case do not mean to be “deceitful” or “dishonest”.  It means no matter how much we believe in a concept, we should be open to other possibilities and ideas.

These 7 lies or beliefs is what Tony found in successful people he modeled.  As a result, many have used these beliefs to take greater action and produce outstanding results.  So here they are.

1.  Everything happens for a reason and purpose and it serves us.  No matter how much negative feedback successful people get, they think in terms of possibilities.  At first, it takes great discipline to learn from tough setbacks.  However being upset and frustrated does not lead us to our desired goal.
2. There is no such thing as failure, there are only results.  Most people in our culture fear failure.  Yet successful people try something and if they don’t get what they want, they look at it as a learning experience.  They take a new action and produce a new result.  Thomas Edison tried 9999 times to perfect the light bulb and said that he never failed.  Each time he discovered another way not to invent the light bulb.
3. Whatever happens, take responsibility.  Leaders believe they create their own world.  They believe what happens is the result of their creation no matter the outcome.  It is an excellent measure of power and maturity.
4. It is not necessary to understand everything to use everything.  Successful people know how to use what is essential without getting bogged down into detail.  People in power like a CEO have knowledge about many things, but little mastery in details of each.  They are always aware how much they need to know.
5. People are your greatest resource.  Leaders have a great appreciation of people.  They have a sense of team and unity.  They learn to create rapport.  Companies who succeed are the ones who treat people with respect and dignity.
6. Work is play.  Anyone who has achieved massive success just love what they do.  “When I work, I relax” Pablo Picasso.  “The secret of success is making your vocation your vacation” Mark Twain.  There are many that are working toward doing what they love.  Yet, we can get creative on ways we can currently love what we do.
7. There is no abiding success without commitment.  Those who succeed have the power of commitment.  One example is American football player, Tom Brady.  He is someone who doesn’t have the strongest arm, fastest legs, or the most athletic.  There were 198 players picked before him when he was drafted.  Yet, Tom is committed to being the best.  As a result, he is arguably the greatest player of all time to play his position.

Are there any beliefs that you would add to this list?  Do you find these beliefs useful and beneficial or would you take away any of them.   I would love to get your feedback on them.

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In this blog, I wanted to share an interview that I saw with tennis great Novak Djokovic conducted by Lewis Howes.  I was completed moved and amazed what Novak has accomplished on and off the tennis court.

For those that do not know Novak Djokovic, he is one of the greatest men’s tennis players of all time.   He has been # 1 in the world for 4 years this decade.  He is a winner of 12 major titles.  He held all 4 majors consecutively for the first time since Rod Laver since 1969.

What I didn’t know about Novak is that growing up in Serbia, he and his family went through two wars.  The 2nd of the two wars, forced Novak and his family seek an underground shelter at his aunt’s house.  In addition, his family waited in line for milk and bread for hours.

Novak also heard and felt bombs and talked about how difficult it is not having control of your own environment.  Fortunately, he did not lose any family members.  However, he knew of many Serbians who did lose family and created thousands of refugees.

Instead of becoming a victim and creating a negative story, Novak became very grateful for going through this traumatic experience.  Novak became much more appreciative of his life.  Appreciation and being blessed became his story.

Here are the principles and take aways on Novak’s beliefs.

1. He loves and appreciates his wife for her honesty and devotion.
2. He stated that everything happens for a reason.
3. Clarity: he knew he was going to be number 1 tennis player in the world.  He even created a Wimbledon trophy and visualized being the champion as a young boy.
4. He became an ambassador for Unicef helping provide shelter for refugees in Serbia.
5. He defines hatred and revenge as prisoners of their own emotions.
6. Biggest lesson from war is to always be kind to anyone and everyone because you can never know what another person is going through.  There is God that guides us and will prosper as long as we appreciate and respect others.
7. Adversity in his tennis career in 2010, where Novak considered quitting the game.  He was number three in the world and wasn’t happy.  His was not winning titles.  His best friend asked him to forget wins and losses and asked him if he still loves the game.  Once Novak knew he did, he became number 1 in the world and winning 43 consecutive matches.  Loving the game became primary and winning trophies became secondary.
8. Happiness is from the inside.  Inner peace and happiness is the ultimate goal.
9. Learn to breathe, so that we can stay in the present.

 

Novak’s three truths are:

1. Live Freely
2. Breathe Deeply
3.  Love Fully

Lastly Novak’s definition of greatness is to find your purpose.  If you find your purpose, you will give purpose to others.  We will maximize our life experience if we find our purpose.

Attached is the link to the interview:

 

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Losing serves in many ways.  It not only serves on a level of achievement or significance, it also serves us emotionally and spiritually.

One of my favorite athletes of all time is men’s tennis legend Pete Sampras.  When Pete came up in the men’s tour, he became an unknown who won the U.S. Open at age 19.  That is the youngest men’s champion ever at the U.S. Open.

Success came too soon for Pete.  After that big win, Pete was lost and overwhelmed with all the fan and media attention he was receving.  As a result he struggled for about 18 months.  Pete was a great natural talent, but not a competitor.  Two years after winning his first U.S. Open, he found himself back in the finals.  Pete’s mindset was that he was happy with the two weeks and was okay making the finals.  What Pete did not have was the hunger to win the match and eventually lost the match with a 6-2 loss in the 4th and final set to Stefan Edberg.  Pete admitted that he did not dig deep and do the things he needed to do to win the match.

Here is how Pete described it:

“It changed my whole mentality, when I kind of gave up in that fourth set,” he recalled during a morning press conference. “I just promised myself I would never let that happen again. I knew exactly what I wanted. I wanted to stay No. 1. That 1992 loss to Edberg was the wake-up call that I needed to really figure this thing out.”

This loss bothered Pete in a big way.  Pete said that he willl never give up in a match like that.  As a result, Pete became completely dedicated to his trade and went on to breaking many records including a record at the time of 14 majors.  In addition, Pete became the #1 player in the world for six consecutive years.

To this day, Pete says this loss is the greatest event that ever happened to him.  He would have never won 14 majors nor go on to have a the hall of fame career that he had.  Thus, one loss became thirteen majors.

Now, I know not all of us are tennis players and athletes.  I know that I have had many major setbacks that have turned out to be incredible blessings.  I remember not getting a promotion in 2003 and felt I deserved one.  By not getting promoted, I ended up meeting my wife Carmen.  Of course, I don’t know where my life would be without my bride.

As Tony Robbins says, “Those who succeed tend to party and those fail tend to ponder”.

What disappointments and challenges are you going through right now?

How are the disappointments in your life setting you up for winning moments?

How is losing getting you to take your life to the next level?

Feel free to comment below.  I would love to hear from your responses.